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Outsider Looking In – Trigger Warnings and Art

This week one of my professors asked her students about trigger warnings (often referred to as TW or triggers).

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We discussed what they are, how they affect people, and what place they might have in both an academic and artistic setting. Before this discussion started I read this blog post by Sarah Hollowell (@SarahHollowell on Twitter) about abusive relationships in YA fiction, specifically the Twilight series. She starts a great conversation about normalized violence and gender dynamics in 50 Shade of Grey as well.

These discussions got a lot of wheels turning in my head. This is a conversation that I am incredibly passionate about and I want to participate. But I find myself struggling to find the right way to do so.

When it comes to talking about these issues and so many others I am very much an outsider. I’ve never been assaulted but 1 in 5 women in the United States alone have and 1 in 79 men have as well (that number is estimated to be a lot higher because of under reporting). And those are just the people who have reported their assaults or have been able to articulate exactly what happened to them. When we start looking closer at the data we do have available it becomes stomach churning. Almost 50% of victims are assaulted before the age of 18. The CDC has a good compilation of these stats here if anyone needs some solid information on this issue.

Given these statistics it seems safe to assume that there are a vast number of people who I interact with on a daily basis who have experienced some sort of sexual assault.

So is there a way to help people who have gone through a traumatic experience, whether is be sexual assault, war, suicide attempts, etc. to avoid things that might trigger painful flashbacks?

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(Please be reminded, I’m talking about triggers that deal with sexual assault or war trauma. I don’t think trigger warnings are necessary for insects and bodily fluids in an academic setting. Maybe the internet where those conversations might be more common but not the classroom.)

Trigger warnings are defined as something (usually a brief sentence or two) this is used to warn people there will be content that might ‘trigger’ them. They can also be abbreviated as ‘TW’ as I did at the beginning of this post.

So what goes it mean when someone is ‘triggered’?

Usually it means they feel intense anxiety at the least and can have full blown flashbacks very much like war veterans with PTSD have.

However, people who have been through a sexual assault are not likely to recieve the same treatment as a verteran might. This has a lot to do with how victims of assault are percieved by our society (often referred to as rape culture, a whole other can of worms).

These experiences are different for everyone and things that are not necessarily related to the traumatic event can still be triggers: songs, movies, actions taken by other people, phrases, and so on.

While discussing this issue with my professor we spoke of it in an artistic context. Should artists be limited by triggers? Should they preface works with possible triggers with warnings? How do we determine what a trigger is since it can be so many different things?

First of all I have never and never will advocate for censorship.censorship

Censoring the material won’t change anything. It never has and it never will.

I do believe that there are some general things we can, as a community of artists and like-minded people, agree are upsetting to people who have been through these kinds of traumatic events. These might include scenes portraying rape, assault, molestation, etc. Very general things that can easily be given a warning and it doesn’t have to be in big bold letters.

My teacher brought up the fact that she had taught Towelhead by Alicia Erian.

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The book contained issues that might have been triggering for some people. A student pointed out that the synopsis of the book provided information about the sexual content of the book. It is subtle but most assuredly there when you are aware of what you’re looking for. For example here is part of the synopsis:

“Bewildered by extremes of parental scrutiny and neglect, Jasira begins to look elsewhere for affection. Saddam Hussein has invaded Kuwait, and high school has become a lonely place for a “towelhead.” When her father meets, and forbids her to see, her boyfriend, it becomes lonelier still. But there is always Mr. Vuoso — a neighboring army reservist whose son Jasira babysits. Mr. Vuoso, as Jasira discovers, has an extensive collection of Playboy magazines. And he doesn’t seem to think there’s anything wrong with Jasira’s body at all.

Those last three sentences quickly give the reader a sense of what might happen between Jasira and Mr. Vuso. For many people this is enough to allow them to decide whether or not they wish to continue to read the book. It isn’t obtrusive and it fits with the nature of books.

I also considered how this issue is handled in documentaries. A brief message will roll across the screen saying something to the effect of: “This film contains material that some viewers might find disturbing.” Again, by reading the synopsis of the film or by hearing/seeing this message a person can be prepared for what they might see and then make a choice about whether or not they want to continue.

Things begin to get murky when we talk about live readings, performances, viewings, etc.

This conversation began as my professor giving the example of a writer who gave a reading and was then approached by some of the audience members who tried to inform him about triggers and suggest that he should warn the audience.

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His reaction was less than stellar. It doesn’t sound like these people who approached him were trying to be rude or say that they wanted him to not talk about these things. While I can see some of his point this type of very angry reaction is simply not productive.

Artists shouldn’t be limited in what they want to talk about. But I don’t think this is about limitations. It would take only a few words to warn your audience that the content might be disturbing and those who might find it upsetting can leave quietly or be prepared and know what to expect.

Again, I am an outsider looking in on this issue. I’ve never experienced the trauma that comes with being triggered so I can’t speak from that perspective. But I have, regrettably and unfortunately, caused someone very close to me to be triggered.

A few months ago I retweeted several tweets about rape culture and what that looks like in women’s daily lives. I felt that these were things that needed to be seen and deserved discussion. What I didn’t realize is that these tweets were very upsetting for someone close to me who has experienced stalking and assault. Later in the day they told me about the trigger and asked that in the future I would preface that type of material with a warning so they would be prepared to see it on their feed and then make the decision to scroll past if they needed to.

I was mortified. My attempt at a good action, spreading awareness about rape culture, had brought back memories of a horrible experience. Was I at fault for this? Did I do a bad thing?

There is a fine line to walk when you’re an outsider looking in at these issues. They are incredibly personal and a lot of them are difficult to talk about. Everyone deals with them differently.

Because of that experience I try my hardest to be aware of triggering material.

I know some people will say that trigger warnings are another way of ‘babying’ society and shielding people from the harsh truth of the world. I will give you an analogy I got from this Tumblr post:

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A trigger is like an allergy. We have regulations all over the country on how to package food so that people don’t eat things that can hurt them. People with allergies can’t help this reaction and they can’t overcome it by sheer willpower. In some cases a trained health care professional might help the person introduce the allergen into their body so their body can learn how to deal with the stimulant but you can’t simply throw someone with a severe peanut allergy into a peanut factory and tell them to ‘just ignore it‘.

A trigger is a psychological, and sometimes physiological, event. Certain individuals will handle that event differently and some of them might be able to work on their reactions with the help of a counselor but in the meantime shouldn’t we help the often invisible individuals all around us who might struggle with this issue?

These issues are complicated and multi faceted. I don’t think I have all the answers and I don’t think Trigger Warnings are the perfect answer. But in the day and age of the Internet they help serve as a buffer for those who need it.

Please feel free to comment on this post and share it wherever a professor or teacher might see it. I want this to be a part of a conversation that includes everyone in the academic world. That can’t happen if the profs are in one corner and the students are in another only talking to each other. We have to work together to come to an understanding about this issue and many others.

 

The War on Women and Dick Black

In case you hadn’t noticed there is a war going on.

No I’m not talking about the war(s) in the Middle East (although those are sorely underreported on in my opinion). I’m talking about the war on women that appears to still be going on in America, despite the fact that it is 2014 and we represent over half the population.

Earlier today this article by Amanda Marcotte on Slate caught my eye. At first I rolled my eyes slightly and opened it. And then I read the whole thing and about fell out of my chair.

Dick Black, the man who is running for Congress in Virgina’s 10th congressional district does indeed think it is alright for a husband to rape his wife because “they’re living together, sleeping in the same bed, she’s in a nightie, and so forth”. I think my brain seriously exploded when I read that sentence. It is one of the most deplorable statements I’ve read in a long time, but sadly it is not surprising coming from a man in the Republican party these days.

Please don’t misunderstand me. I fully recognize that there are many Republicans or conservatives or even Tea Party members, who would have the same reaction as I had. Unfortunately there seem to be more and more extremists in the conservative camp. The very idea that anyone would vote for this man is beyond me.

However, looking past the first deplorable statement the readers are soon treated to another gem. Black seems to think that gay people should not be allowed to enter the military because of the danger of rape. Particularly he states: “I recall one particularly terrible situation, where, this was in basic training, there was a young fellow who went to the showers at night, and there were two homosexuals lurking—they were also basic trainees—and they strangled him with a towel and forced him to submit to, you know, things that we won’t talk about on the air.”

ARG! So let’s recap. This man who, again, is running for Congress thinks that a man should not be prosecuted for raping his wife because she is sleeping in the same bed as him (and presumably wearing a nightie, because all women do that). But, judging from the above quote, he thinks that a man getting raped by other men is something that we should seriously consider as a reason to keep gay individuals out of the military.

There are all sorts of things that are wrong with this line of thinking but the first and foremost is that Black seems to think that women have a much lower place on the totem plot of society than men do. I find this plain disgusting but also horribly ironic because his opponent in the congressional race is in fact a woman.

All of this leads us back to my earlier point. The Republican party has more and more extremists like Black that are running under their banners. How a party can allow itself to be associated with people such as Black is beyond me from a moral standpoint but surely this man has some sort of negative effect on their image? Or are they subscribing to the idea of ‘even bad press is good press’?

If Republicans want to recapture the women vote that they did not have in 2008 and 2012 they need to eliminate these misogynists from their ranks. Instead they close ranks around these man, claiming that they are merely speaking their opinions, that their speech is protected, and so on. Unless the Republican party is willing to truly take responsibility for people like Black they will be forever stuck and they will continue to lose votes from women and men alike.

If your hand is full of disease wouldn’t you rather cut it off than let that disease spread and corrupt the rest of your body?

Furthermore, it completely baffles me how people can see people like this spouting their hate and nonsense and not come to the conclusion that women are under attack in this country. Even people who are not right wing conservatives disagree with me. Even liberals disagree with me. NBC News posted this article about how to close the gender gap at work. Mildly curious, I opened it and felt my heart sink with every word. The gist of the  article is that a way to help women be seen as more authoritative is for them to assume ‘power stances’. Or for them to stand like men.

The article also claims that “Today, workplace sexism is subtle — and oftentimes, it’s not overt sexism at all”. Hopefully this is true, but just take a quick glance at EverydaySexism’s ‘confession page‘ and it quickly becomes apparent that sexism, both in and out of the workplace, is alive and well. In order for women to move forward in American society we have to stop pretending that these complex issues that have been ingrained in us since the moment we were born can be solved so simply. Perhaps this is not the claim that the author is making but it seems offensive to me that I should have to stand any particular way, especially like a man, to be taken seriously. Can we not simply treat all other people with the respect we want to be treated with?

Dick Black needs to be reminded of the Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have done to you.” Of course this doesn’t apply to women, minorities, gay or lesbians, or really anyone who isn’t a white man.

I leave you with another article that goes into more detail about Black and his…questionable beliefs.